Dark Humor Helped Me Stay Alive — Here's Why It Matters

If You Think Dark Humor Is “Wrong,” You’ve Probably Never Been in Real Pain

Let me say this plainly:
If I couldn’t laugh at the worst things that ever happened to me, I wouldn't be here writing this.

For a long time, I thought something was wrong with me.
Everyone else seemed to fall silent when the topic turned dark. But I—
I made jokes. Sharp ones. Twisted ones. The kind that made rooms go quiet.
The kind that got me labeled as “too much” or “emotionally detached.”

But I wasn’t detached. I was trying to survive.

Dark humor isn’t a sign of being broken.

It’s a sign of trying not to break.

When you’ve hit emotional rock bottom—grief, trauma, depression, despair—your brain does something brilliant: it tries to protect you. Sometimes it gives you tears. Other times, it gives you laughter.
The nervous kind. The inappropriate kind.
The human kind.

And you know what?
It works.

Humor is the pressure valve for pain

Psychologists have a name for this: gallows humor.
It’s what soldiers in war zones, nurses in ICUs, and trauma survivors use every day.
It allows you to look directly at the darkness and still function.

Humor gives shape to the unspeakable.
It lets you whisper what you’re too afraid to scream.
It gives you a reason to exhale, even if just for a second.

"You're not supposed to laugh at that."

Maybe not. But it kept me alive.

I’ve been through depression so dark that I forgot what hope felt like.
I’ve lost people I never imagined living without.
I’ve sat in sterile rooms where the silence was heavier than the diagnosis.
And in those moments, the only thing that cut through the fog was a brutal, unexpected joke.

Not to make light of what happened.
But to remind myself that I was still here.
Still human. Still breathing. Still me.

Let people laugh at the darkness. It means they haven’t been swallowed by it.

Next time someone cracks a joke at a funeral, in the psych ward, or after a heartbreak, don’t rush to judge.
They may not be disrespecting life.
They may be fighting to stay in it.

If this resonates, you’re not alone.
And if you’ve ever laughed through your tears, you know exactly what I mean.

You’re not broken.
You’re adapting.
You’re surviving the only way your nervous system knows how.

Dark humor isn’t the enemy of healing.
For some of us, it’s the only bridge to it.

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